The best father, the best husband

“I am indebted to my father for living, but to my teacher for living well.”

—Alexander the Great

 

By Alex P. Vidal

 

WHO is the best father? How do we determine if he is best or worst?

The best father should also be the best husband who continues to adore and love his wife even if she has gained weight, wrinkles, and is “no longer sexually attractive.”

He can’t be “the best father” without being “the best husband.” He should be the provider-in-chief for both his children and wife.

He is best who, despite having cavorted with a 20-something nymphet, does not abandon his children and obligation to his family.

It’s much better, of course, if he doesn’t have that 20-something, his main skeleton in the closet.

A “good father” should also be a “good husband.” As much as possible, no man should claim that “l may be a bad husband, but I am a good father.”

Meaning he (admitted to having) betrayed his wife but was never remiss in his duties and obligations to his children.

It should be, “I am doing my best to be both a good husband and a good father.”

 

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Relationship with our family isn’t 5-6; it’s not an eat-all-you-can meal; not a study-now-pay-later plan; not a chicken and egg debate; not a choice between wholesale and retail.

Family is a home, the altar of concrete union and fountain of unconditional love, not a plate of pizza that can be sliced according to our appetite.

A father should act as a primary role model by demonstrating healthy relationships, emotional resilience, and moral integrity in everyday life.

Children observe how heads of the family handle stress, solve problems, and treat others. The most impactful role modeling requires consistency, authenticity, and active presence rather than perfection.

Happy Father’s Day.

 

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IF I were an innocent celebrity and among those constantly mentioned in the series of press conferences by the 18 or more bodyguards of fugitive Zaldy Co as allegedly recipient of maleta (suitcases) or supot (bag) containing millions of pesos, I would go straight to the court and file cases for cyberlibel, libel and moral damages.

It’s useless to deny their lies and innuendos in public. The bagmen would never recant their accusations especially if they were under duress or were allegedly paid P5 million each for the hatchet job.

If I go to court, there is a chance I would be able to redeem my reputation and be indemnified once they were prosecuted.

Denying their falsehoods in public is what they wished for those accused celebrity politicians and media personalities to do.

The backers, led by the disgraced political spin doctor Mike Defensor and his fellow troublemakers, wanted to engage the accused politicians and media personalities in a mudslinging contest because that’s the primary purpose of all these ruckuses.

 

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Because they are the ones throwing the darts and mud, they have nothing to lose but everything to gain.

The zarzuela could be part of the destabilization plot against the government.

Some of the bags may have been delivered to some corrupt politicians and “partners” in crime like former Speaker Martin Romualdez, etcetera, but undoubtedly not all the names they mentioned partook dirty windfall.

It’s becoming increasingly obvious the bagmen and their bosses may be doing the character assassinations and wholesale dirty job to annoy them.

They know their lousy script stands no chance if deeply scrutinized in the bar of public opinion.  

If you allow yourself to be vexed and irritated, you lose and they succeed.  

(The author, who is now based in New York City, used to be the editor-in-chief of two leading daily newspapers in Iloilo, Philippines.—Ed)

 

 

Why it’s useless to celebrate with thugs

“The drops of rain make a hole in the stone, not by violence, but by oft falling.”

—Lucretius

 

By Alex P. Vidal

 

THERE was supposed to be a good reason for many Filipino basketball fans to rush to Midtown Manhattan, a 15-minute ride via subway away from our place in Queens on June 13.

The razzle-dazzle borough was the epicenter of wild celebrations when the New York Knicks bagged the NBA championship against San Antonio Spurs, 4-1, after a nail biter 94-90 win in Texas earlier.

After all, the night was comfortable and dry in the “city that never sleeps,” featuring mostly clear skies that transitioned to partly cloudy later in the evening.

We checked the weather and overnight temperatures dropped to the upper 60s (around 68°F to 71°F) and wind speeds tapered off to a light breeze of about 5 mph.

The itch to join the celebration was tempting. The pleasant, low-humidity evening provided a clear break from the heavy thunderstorms and heat advisories the city experienced earlier that week.

But the cheerful mood suddenly transformed into worry (for our security, first and foremost) and frustration for many excited and non-violent fans when the celebration turned into vandalism and violent clashes of thugs and sports hooligans.

We thought it was useless to celebrate with thugs.

 

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Celebrations that blasted in the Big Apple turned ugly and violent overnight as massive, jubilant crowds, especially in the glitzy Times Square devolved into destructive mobs.

When the smoke was cleared, the chaos resulted in 63 arrests, at least four stabbings, one shooting, and significant property damage, including five school buses set ablaze.

The situation escalated into violence as the hours wore on and rowdy crowds focused their energy on public property.

The New York Police Department (NYPD) arrested 63 people on charges ranging from assault on a police officer and weapons possession to criminal mischief and disorderly conduct.

At least 10 NYPD officers were injured, including one who was punched and another hit with a glass bottle. A 17-year-old was shot in the foot near Times Square at 2 o’clock in the morning.

Police also responded to four separate stabbings/slashings throughout the festivities even as rampaging fans used baseball bats to smash the windshields and windows of at least five police cruisers and multiple civilian vehicles.

Crowds climbed onto a row of school buses parked near Times Square (which were being used as shuttles for the World Cup), smashed the windows, and set five of them on fire.

While the vast majority of New Yorkers celebrated the franchise's first title peacefully, the severe destruction and violence required the NYPD to don riot gear and deploy batons and zip ties to disperse the crowds.

 

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As of press time, New York Daily News reported that New York City Mayor Zoran Mamdani defended his decision to schedule the NBA champion Knicks ticker-tape parade for June 18, even though NYC students would be taking their Regents exams.

The date, which was selected in partnership with a coalition that included the Knicks organization, the NYPD and other city agencies and departments, likely means thousands of local school kids will be unable to attend the celebratory event, the first canyon of heroes' parade in the history of the franchise, according to a report by Cayla Bamberger.

“I know that many New Yorkers have built their entire lives around this team,” Mamdani said June 15 at a news conference in the Maspeth neighborhood of Queens. “Not just for the course of these last few weeks and months and years, but frankly for decades.”

“For our students, I will still encourage them to be studying hard for the Regents exam. There will always be any number of people who will not be able to make it, no matter what day that we choose.”

The parade is scheduled to kick off at 10 o’clock in the morning, traveling north along Broadway through the “Canyon of Heroes” before concluding at City Hall.

Immediately after the parade, Mamdani will reportedly host a championship celebration and ceremony to provide the Knicks with a “Key to the City.” It is the first championship parade in the team’s history; the 1970 and 1973 teams were honored in ceremonies at City Hall.

(The author, who is now based in New York City, used to be the editor-in-chief of two daily newspapers in Iloilo, Philippines.—Ed)

 

Thank you, Iloilo City

“Without a sense of caring, there can be no sense of community.”

—Anthony J. D'Angelo

 

By Alex P. Vidal

 

THIS is another feather in the cap of the Iloilo City Government that Ilonggos around the world should be proud of.

Soon after the magnitude 7.8 earthquake walloped the coast of Maasim, Sarangani and devastated many parts of Mindanao June 8, the Iloilo City Government was the first local government (LGU) in the Philippines to reach out and offer assistance to the affected communities.

Without much fanfare and delay, Mayor Raisa Maria Lourdes Sarabia Treñas-Chu immediately instructed the Iloilo City Disaster Risk Reduction and Management Office (CDRRMO) to coordinate with its counterparts in General Santos City to determine the extent of the damage and identify urgent needs on the ground.

“The Iloilo city government is prepared to extend assistance to General Santos City following the earthquake that struck this morning,” Treñas-Chu said in a statement released June 8 as reported by Dr. Hazel Villa.

The mayor directed the CDRRMO to communicate with the General Santos City disaster officials and “await an official assessment to ensure that any aid sent by Iloilo City would be responsive to the most pressing requirements of affected communities.”

 

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“We will await their official assessment and report to ensure that the assistance we provide is responsive to their most urgent needs,” she added.

Treñas-Chu’s statement reverberated around the world through the power of the social and mainstream media. It reached the attention of many Filipinos abroad in a split second.

The world was reminded of how caring and affectionate the Ilonggos are especially in times of calamities and other tragedies.

Death toll has risen to 47, 17 remained missing, and 487 have been injured, as of this writing.

The Philippines’ Office of Civil Defense reported that most of the additional fatalities were found in Davao Occidental province, largely as a result of a landslide and buildings collapsing.

More than 33,000 households, equivalent to around 150,000 people, have been affected by the disaster, according to the National Disaster Risk Reduction and Management Council,

Aftershocks continue to be recorded across Mindanao Island and several areas in the central Philippines, with more than 1,700 tremors.

The earthquake struck at 7:37 a.m. June 8 and was initially measured by the Philippine Institute of Volcanology and Seismology (Phivolcs) at magnitude 7.0 event before being upgraded to magnitude 7.8.

Over 2,000 PNP personnel deployed as full-scale response continues after Mindanao Quake.

The quake’s epicenter was located about 32 kilometers southwest of Maasim, Sarangani.

 

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As this developed, residents continued to stay in evacuation centers as relief operations and damage assessments proceeded in affected provinces.

Government data showed widespread destruction to residential structures, with many homes sustaining either partial or total damage, prompting residents to stay and sleep outside their homes.

Rescue teams remained deployed in areas where collapsed buildings and landslides were reported, particularly in parts of General Santos City and Sarangani.

Phivolcs has warned residents to remain vigilant as aftershocks continued to be recorded following the powerful quake.

President Ferdinand Marcos Jr. visited General Santos City to personally assessed the damage caused by the massive quake, while Vice President Sara Duterte-Carpio visited earthquake-stricken communities in Sarangani province and General Santos where she met with victims.

Classes in hard-hit areas remain suspended.

(The author, who is now based in New York City, used to be the editor-in-chief of two daily newspapers in Iloilo, Philippines.—Ed)

 

After violent Game 3, we’re now told to ‘wear blue and orange’ for Game 4

“I match up with the best guys in the world. I'm not being cocky; it's just always how I felt. But I got into trouble as soon as I got into the NBA, and it left a bad taste in a lot of people's mouths.”

—Michael Beasley

 

By Alex P. Vidal

 

NO one can freely roam around New York City today rooting for San Antonio Spurs or wearing Spurs jersey and shorts without being brutally harassed by rowdy Knicks fans.

It happened June 8 or Monday night when the Madison Square Garden (MSG) hosted Game 3 of the NBA finals attended by President Donald Trump.

Several Spurs fans wearing the Texas team shirts were ambushed by hometown fans with flying kicks and blows as the Knicks fans became violent and uncontrollable.

Unruly Knicks fanatics also clashed with New York Police Department (NYPD) officers outside Bryant Park's Game 3 watch party prepared by the city government even as one fan was caught hurling a bottle at an officer that resulted in a melee.

 

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Just one hour after tip-off, the sea of fans was already teetering over the edge, as many didn't make it inside the official watch park of the Knicks-Spurs game in the Midtown park.

Huge brawls broke out and cops in riot gear rushed to control the unruly crowd, deploying pepper spray.

But another shocking video showed the sign being used as a weapon during a brawl on 42nd Street.

One lunatic was seen smashing the sign off the heads of others in the chaotic scenes.

Stray punches and kicks were hurled right in front of cops before they rushed to break apart the brawlers

As of this writing, the brusque message sent out by Mayor Zohran Kwame Mamdani to all New Yorkers June 9 seems to be “show your Knicks pride,” as Wear Blue and Orange Day will be recognized on June 10 across city government offices and New York City public schools in honor of the Knicks.

 

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Students, educators and city employees have been invited to wear blue and orange ahead of Game 4 of the NBA Finals.

The Eastern Conference champion New York Knicks have worn blue, white and orange throughout the team’s history. The colors pay tribute to the official colors of the City of New York.

“Nothing says ‘let’s go Knicks’ like blue and orange,” announced Mamdani.

“As our Knicks continue this historic run, we’re inviting New Yorkers to show their pride, wear the city’s colors and stand behind a team that has brought all of New York together. We’re so glad to have them back to Madison Square Garden in front of the best fans in the world.”

The Knicks will host the San Antonio Spurs in Game 4 of the NBA Finals on Wednesday (June 10) night at Madison Square Garden. New York currently holds a 2-1 lead in the series. 

 

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Shaun Powell, who covered the NBA since 1985, said there’s a big difference between 3-1 and 2-2 in the NBA Finals.

The former is a show of dominance and an almost guarantee of a championship as far as history is concerned. The latter means this series will last a while and belongs to no one, Powell pointed out.

Such are the stakes Wednesday for Game 4 between the New York Knicks and San Antonio Spurs.

“Do the Knicks pull somewhat comfortably ahead and increase their margin for error and their championship odds? Or do the Spurs regain home court advantage—for whatever that’s worth—and change the conversation and momentum in this series?” Powell asked.

Chances are these questions will be answered by the composure of the young Spurs, their trapping defense on Jalen Brunson, whether Victor Wembanyama delivers like he did in Game 3, and a host of assorted adjustments by each team that will impact the outcome.

(The author, who is now based in New York City, used to be the editor-in-chief of two leading daily newspapers in Iloilo, Philippines.—Ed)