“Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels
more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it.
And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.”
Marianne Williamson
By Alex P. Vidal
Even if Rev. Msgr.
Juanito Ma. Tuvilla, the parish priest of Santa Barbara, Iloilo, knew what he
was doing and talking, we must still forgive him.
Some of us—especially
those scandalized by his alleged “unchristian” acts—might not yet ready to
smoke the proverbial peace pipe with him, but we must always be ready to open
our hearts, bury the hatchet and let bygones be bygones.
In the new
International Version of the Holy Bible, Luke 23:34 quoted Jesus as saying,
"Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing." And
they divided up his clothes by casting lots.
The only difference is
Jesus was the one persecuted in the biblical story that happened more than two
thousand years ago.
In Santa Barbara town,
Tuvilla was the one accused of persecution by residents of Brgy. Dalid.
Tuvilla’s alleged
uncouth behavior started after the burial mass for a dead member of the
Susvilla family of Barangay Dalid on July 19.
Ricky Dioso, a family
member, was thanking those who attended the mass for the dead Susvilla family
member inside the Santa Barbara Church when Tuvilla suddenly grabbed the
microphone and chided the grieving family.
SWITCH
Tuvilla threatened to
switch off the church’s power supply when he sensed the family still refused to
leave after the mass and was taking it long for them to use the premises.
“Ano gusto niyo patyan ta kamu kuryente (Do you want me to switch off the
power?),” Barangay Dalid chief Rolly Sorongon quoted the priest as saying.
Embarrassed and
shocked, Dioso retorted angrily
“Paano ka nag pari? Bastos ka man (How did you become a priest? You
are ill-mannered),” Sorongon quoted Dioso as saying.
The village chief, who
reported the incident to media, claimed the incident shocked the people inside
the church.
Rev. Fr. Alfone Marie
Berbegal, who celebrated the requiem mass for the dead Susvilla family member,
never questioned why it took the family too long to use the church to thank
mourners.
To compound the
matter, Sorongon reported further that Tuvilla called the residents of Barangay
Dalid as thieves of carabaos and that the Susvillas were ill-mannered during
his homily the following Sunday.
PULPIT
The priest’s diatribes
in the pulpit reportedly further enraged the family and residents of Sorongon’s
barangay.
Sorongon’s fellow
village chiefs Jeffrey Suarnava (Barangay Sangcate), Noel Suezo (Barangay Daga)
and Tim Padilla (Barangay Zone 5 Poblacion) also reportedly confirmed Tuvilla’s
alleged misbehavior toward some residents.
The scandal has
erupted into scandalous proportions as it came in the heels of an incident in
Cebu where 59-year-old Fr. Romeo Obach humiliated an unwed teenage mother
during the baptismal of her child inside the Sacred Heart chapel in Mandaue
City last July 6.
When the video of the
incident recorded by the girl’s 12-year-old sister went viral, Fr. Obach
panicked and realized his mistake.
The girl has forgiven
Fr. Obach after he wrote her a letter of apology and visited her to personally
say sorry for his “cruel” words.
Forgiveness means the
Association of Barangay Councils (ABC) of Santa Barbara should withdraw the
petition asking for Msgr. Tuvilla’s ouster.
ARCHDIOCESE
Now that his alleged
misdemeanor and arrogance has been reported to the Archdiocese of Jaro which
has the direct supervision over erring priests, let’s allow the chips to fall
where they may and wait for the proper sanction, just in case there is one.
But hatred must be
removed from our hearts.
The enmity happened
with no bloodshed. Everything was a product of emotional outburst. No property
was lost. No life was wasted. No one was harmed physically. If Jesus can
forgive, why can’t we ordinary mortals?
Like Fr. Obach, we are
confident that Msgr. Tuvilla must have realized his mistakes—human as he is.
After all, to err is
human; it is a divine to forgive, as Alexander Pope had said.
If Msgr. Tuvilla is
willing to face his enemies and bury their hatchets, reconciliation isn’t
far-fetched.
Community leaders,
municipal and provincial officials should mediate a reconciliation move between
the two parties.
Let’s listen to Matthew
6:14-15, “For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly
Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your
Father will not forgive your sins.”